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How Vedanta can help you make better decisions?
Keywords: Mental Associations, life, observation, hardwired, moksha, Vedanta
I was skinny for the majority of my life. I was skinny in school; I was skinny while I was growing up I was skinny in my Ph.D. days and only after I crossed 35 and was in America. I gained 30 or 40 pounds and looked not skinny.
I had a friend in my college days who is very good observant, who told me several times that I am skinny because I do certain things after my meal.
That is the reason why I was skinny, with solid confidence in his voice. So, Y followed by X is the reason why I was skinny. Apparently, he reiterated this several times, and I was not aware. His observation and conclusions were, of course, based not just on me and probably on several other people in his life.
So he strongly believed in that, and then we met again after 15 years, and we had dinner together I did not know that he was observing that, but a particular pattern followed. “I know that you’re going to do that”, shouted my friend with a satisfactory grin on his face. Even though I was not skinny. I mean, compared to him, even after gaining 30 or 40 pounds, I’m always skinny. He essentially maintains his particular weight. I don’t even know that he had that observation built in his mind. And I asked him why you said that. Then he said, Oh, I know you used to do that In our college days.
therefore it is so his association is you’d certainly hit confirm. Now, after what he mentioned, I look back, and then I will realize that for a long time. I did not do what he said I would do after a meal.
Considering we take one or two meals a day over the years constitutes a large number of meals in our life. The pattern that is suggested is less than 5%. So 95% or 90% of the time, I didn’t do what he associated. However, his association is etched.
That made me think that his association, doing X after a meal, for whatever reason that he felt these two are connected to me being skinny. This is such a strong mental picture he has it even after 15 or 20 years, that picture never gone away.
So our mental associations once we engrave them into our hard drive so as to say they are hard do not be raised that easily even after 1000 times that association fails. If it is successful, even 1001 time then the towel the old 1000 times that it did not successful just wiped out. Then we immediately magnify the one success, that one association that out of 1001. So our inability to dissociate from the strong mental correlation pictures, which may or may not have any connection to the reality or the truth, or even things is an evolutionary trade, obviously that we developed for our survival, but it also becomes an impediment in our understanding. So his behavior or his casual inference just reminded me that how hardwired we are to our mental associations that may or may not have any resemblance to the dynamic changes that are happening in our lives. So we are trapped
We are being tied down by this by these mental pictures. Or associations of strong correlations. It is this picture that permeates every aspect of life. Whether you are a scientist, you are a normal person or a housewife. You are NumPy the word regular guy or a student or a teacher, and it doesn’t matter they just it just affects everybody in all walks of life all the time.
So if you completely remove this, our survival will probably be at risk. So I’m not even remotely suggesting that this is bad or that we should not have this. What I am thinking, on the other hand, is that we should be consciously aware of the pitfalls of the associations that we develop all the time. So when typical issues affect our lives or the lives that depend on us or our role in society, we need to be aware of this we need to be conscious of the updates of these mental associations and our strong convictions. That we develop based on our observations and other things.
So we need to constantly be in a state of questioning and see how much that is and how much it is important. So this is a very, very simple example but illustrates a more profound point. And here I mean, I strongly believe that perhaps for the first time Vedanta helps. Perhaps the first time made inroads in identifying the problem. You can call these attachments an umbrella term that can be used to things or your mental pictures that are hardwired.
All these are just impediments to understanding the grandiose nature of the truth. Vedanta helps you to look at these things in a wider sense. Then your personal Moksha or liberation, is, in my opinion, it is substantially richer. So we need to look at it much more deeply.